She said, “Being in love is like being under water; when it’s over and you come to the surface, you’re learning to breathe all over again”.
I think it applies to a lot of things in life. It was that expectant first time mother who had a miscarriage, whose hopes had suddenly been turned into tears. It was that wife’s husband that had been drafted into the army and sent off to war never to return again for another hug. It was that accident that took your loved ones and left you in a wheel chair. It was that job that you were fired from after you had taken that loan. That rape ordeal you relive each each time the lights go out.
It is like being under water and when you regain your senses and that desire to live, you are back to the surface. Suddenly you are learning to breathe.
For some it is for entire groups of people. It is Rwanda learning how to be a nation again. It is Sierra Leone after years of civil war. It is Germany after years of being walled into two. It is South Africa after 1993.
You had forgotten how it was to breathe. You are learning again.We’ve probably all been through these moments and are still going through them. Circumstances maybe different but we know what it means. That one sided love you poured your soul into, that relationship that drifted painfully from you while you had to fake a smile and laugh. That church group that suddenly turned on you when you didn’t speak as you ought to; those friends that look away because you no longer fit their group; that man that decided you only had a life if you loved a certain colour… the list is endless.
We must learn how to breathe, again. We must learn to forget our utopias. We must receive our dystopias with grace, endure them until we are on the surface.
One of my favourite bands is Switchfoot. Actually they are my favourite band. They released a song 16 years ago with the title “Learning To Breathe” and its lyrics and meaning is apt. It reminded me who my Life is. It reminded me regardless what I go through, He is breath.
When I drown in my mess, again, He brings me to the surface, and teaches me to breathe again. Enjoy the song’s lyrics and may you find hope where you are.
Hello, good morning, how you do?[Chorus:] Learning to breathe
What makes your rising sun so new?
I could use a fresh beginning too
All of my regrets are nothing new
So this is the way that I say I need You
This is the way that I’m
I’m learning to crawl
I’m finding that You and You alone can break my fall
I’m living again, awake and alive
I’m dying to breathe in these abundant skies
Hello, good morning, how you been?[Chorus]
Yesterday left my head kicked in
I never, never thought that
I would fall like that
Never knew that I could hurt this bad
So this is the way I say I need You[Chorus]
This is the way that I say I love You
This is the way that I say I’m Yours
This is the way, this is the way
Hello good morning how you do?