You should have your own story. A unique story, different, separate, distinguishable from mine. I should be able to talk about you without referring to something or someone in the past or nearby. I should be able to refer to you sans the words like, as, … I want to be able to tell a different story. To have a unique history about you, independent of others.
A time comes when the small addictions of nostalgia need to be flushed down the drain; when hues, shades, scents and images that would have you reach for the bottle of remembrance and regret become totally fresh and lively. When everything becomes new, because of you, when everything is born again because of you. Dead to the past, dead to previous broken hearts, disappointments and the entire lot of baggage.
When there are no excuses because of what someone else did, or what you did not do. I should have my own story, you should have your own story. Coz ‘nothing compares, nothing compares to you. [Sinead O’Connor]
I’m talking about something that does not simply ignore the past or pretend like nothing happened but when it no longer means a thing, no longer makes your heart skip a beat, no longer brings tears to your eyes, no longer makes you shake your head in regret.
No need to look behind any more.